Pastor E.A Adeboye on 7 mistakes to avoid before you marry that special person. It’s a must-read for young women and men (especially) who wants to select a life partner.
1. Don’t marry a man who has no job
Before God gave Adam, Eve he gave him a job. He (God) said, “this is the garden, keep it.” So those who come to you and say “sister, thus sayeth the Lord, you are going to be the star in my firmament,” answer them, “alright sir, before I become a star in your firmament, what is your job?”
If he hasn’t got a steady income, if he hasn’t got a job, don’t marry him. A man is to provide for the house, not the other way round. If he has no income, he should not marry.
Those who would not work should not eat. And if they can’t eat, they can’t even marry.
2. Don’t marry Delilah
Don’t marry Delilah cause Delilah can stop Sampson. What does that mean? Don’t marry for beauty sake.
The Bible is clear…Proverbs 31:30 says “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”
She is going to grow old…everybody grows old.
3. Don’t marry outside the church
I want to tell you point blank that it is better to be single than to be married to the devil. Don’t ever think that you can marry somebody and then change the fellow.
If the fellow does not change before you marry, it is a settled matter. “Ahh, no problem, I am standing on the rock of ages, and that brother (that sister), I know he is still in the miry clay of sin, I will pull him up.” He will pull you down.
Because you see, that brother is tall, lanky, handsome, rich, and you jump for him. Goliath was tall and he lost his head, king Saul was lanky, he lost his crown.
Don’t marry a fool
His externals don’t matter, his wealth is of no account. If he is not a true child of God, don’t be associated with him. The word of God is very clear. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
And if somebody pretends that he is a Christian…he is following you to church because he is thinking that he could get to you, all you need to do is watch.
The bible says by their fruits, you shall know them…not by their talk. When a brother comes to you and says “I have never seen anyone like you before, when I saw you I think the sun is shining”.
Ask him “do you believe in holiness?” If he says “NO, no human being can be perfect that we are all flesh, and only God is perfect.” The moment you hear that, run so don’t be childish.
Don’t think we don’t know what we were doing, we are no fools. You cannot be like everybody else and be an example. An example is always someone who is different from all others that others will copy…not somebody who copies others.
And parents of Sampson told him, “are there not women of your own people for you to go outside this fold to go and bring a devil from somewhere else?”
4. Don’t marry a girl because she can sing
Singing is wonderful, God loves worshippers but the devil used to be the choirmaster in heaven. But in some choir, there are some fallen angels, they can sing like nobody’s business but they are equally yoked with the devil.
Who should you marry then, marry a prayer warrior. There are those that I have advised before who ignored my advice. Now they come to me and they said, “you warned us.”
5. Don’t marry a girl who is lazy
You pay their family a surprise visit and you see the way she is. If she is lazy when she is a girl, how is she going to cope when she marries and have children? How would she cope?
6. Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook
You want to eat food in your own house. A girl who cannot cook will not be a good wife.
7. Don’t marry a girl who is worldly
A girl who will not dress right, a girl who is always after jewelry, if you do, you have gotten something you will worship for the rest of your life.
Colossians 3:1-3 says “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”
I’m believing God that when you marry, you will marry the right person.